Rabu, 14 Juni 2017

Repairing the Dark Goddess within the Heart

Truly Getting Down to the Work that Needs to be Done

The damage of women comes from thousands of years of not being allowed to fully express their sexuality. Over millennia, this has been taken away from women. As we are starting to remove the ugly masks from the demonized and outcast Goddesses, we see there is much more work to be done. In modern times, we have physical proof these images live within women, society and the world at large. If we are truly about to resurrect Goddess worship in modern times, we must first face the ugly reality that the damage is deeply embedded and we ALL play a part in its continued existence, whether consciously or unconsciously.

With Lilith we see how her role as votaress for ancient sex rites in the Middle East was turned into the classic image of the sexy, dangerous vamp. Today, sex-workers, both men and women, are considered an evil and scary part of our society. Yet American culture projects this very thing through ads, TV shows, movies, and other media. The people who embody Liliths physical work are feared, castrated and less protected than others. In addition, its more likely for a woman to be incarcerated for prostitution than it is for a man. [i] On a more personal level, Lilith is that aspect of equality we cry for. When a woman does decry unfairness, she is cast away or leaves before experiencing the outcome of a situation. This situation can apply to any relationship, where the masculine and feminine are present, not just heterosexual affairs.

Mary Magdalenes role as a favored disciple and the undeniable historical evidence that links her to priestess work has been diminished by the Catholic Church in an effort to make Peter Yeshuas most blessed. Thus leading to womens spiritual roles as meaning nothing and considered unneeded. Her misinterpretation in the role of Christianity has led to the misconception of her being a prostitute among other assumed, negative female roles.

Medusas Greek ideal lives in the hearts of our own blood sisters, such as the case with mine. Medusa not only represents negative feminine stereotypes but her hated and terrible form also manifests itself through actual women living out this patriarchal fear. Medusa is that aspect embedded within the hearts of women and the frightening imaginations of men where it is seen a necessity to cut off her head from behind. Whether it means keeping secrets from a woman, silencing her during an argument or actually murdering her among a plethora of other possibilities men take on the Perseus role without even thinking. Demetra George explains it best:

Men who have not made peace with Medusa in themselves will see feminine sexuality as something that fascinates them, but also the source of their self-undoing. As they try to protect themselves against its frightening power by destroying the monster, they unconsciously incite the Medusa woman in their lives to retaliate by castrating them physically and psychologically. For many of us direct confrontation with this aspect of our being, often unknown and unnamed as it hides in the dark caverns of our psyche, can overwhelm and immobilize us with its raw intensity.

And yet a man who desires a positive relationship to womens dark moon sexuality must make the descent into his unconscious, listen to the wailing agony of his decapitated Medusa, reach out in sympathy to her pain, heal the wounds of her rejection, and return whole-within-himself to the upper world. After the hero has proved his separation from his mother, he must reestablish a loving relationship to his inner dark feminine. Until he can do this he will remain trapped in the web of destructive sexual relationships.

In heterosexuality, men who hold an utter fascination with womens bodies are the same men who hold a cross up in terror when the object of their desire freaks out. They begin to label them and start to assume a womans next actions in addition to predicting their reactions to certain situations. This causes men to withhold themselves from the woman, thus furthering her despair and longing. A negative cycle has begun or perhaps it is continued. I dont remember who said this, but it solidified something within my heart when I heard it, If a man claims to know a womans mind, he knows nothing at all. I cant describe enough how true this is. I dont know how this would be for other kinds of sexualities, but if you apply the masculine image and the feminine role, Im almost certain similar results occur.

These Goddesses also project that aspect from which we castrate ourselves, in fear of facing reality or in being afraid of understanding the darkness presented to us. In rage and aberration, Lilith was forced to marry Adam and then torn from her duties to Innana/Ishtar. Mary Magdalenes spiritual role was taken from her and her name defamed as a prostitute. Medusa is likewise cut off from Athena, who insists on Medusas head for her Aegis. Not only do these stories describe a tear between the relations of women but also how women are robbed of who they are and what they want to express themselves to be.

Women have a love/hate relationship between each other, at least in our society. Theres this catty attitude and a thirst for competition, particularly over money and men, which is unexplainable and quite despicable to me. This is the essence of jealousy . . . someone having something someone else wants because that person cannot find the strength within themselves to appreciate what they have in their own life. Because we are not taught that each person (woman or man) is precious in their own right in addition to social guidelines to adhere and conform to, most grow up with depression issues, psychological and emotional problems and, some, end up with eating disorders.

The one commonality between all these goddesses is the prominence they held at the height of their ancient, revering societies. Lilith was the high priestess and Mary Magdalene was a lady of such stature. Medusa was the Ultimate Great Mother who beheld the mysteries and magical power Lilith and the Magdalene ministered. Their high office ensured the balance of nature, was the hub of the community and permitted the feminine on an equal and reasonable footing with the masculine.

Within the sacred sex rites that we know Lilith, Mary Magdalene and Medusa to be associated with, a womans menstruation or moontime was an important part of the process. Today, menstrual blood is not seen as sacred and valued. Women are told to put something in their underwear and just continue their lives as if nothings going on. Were taught to deny our intuitions and, in this kind of alienation, we deny ourselves of the connection with our innermost self.

How do we heal such negativities? Liliths statement of freedom and independence was supposedly a warning to women if they tried to exercise such beliefs. They would be castrated from their societies and labeled as a whore. Mary Magdalenes vision, I believe, is the reason why the Catholic Church doesnt allow women to be leaders as well as deeming visions heathen work. Additionally, the Church will most certainly consider marriage for priests before they let women become leaders. What about Medusas hated image? She was the leader of a group of forceful, powerful, military-type women who were overwrought with patriarchal conquest. The patriarchys projected image of the terrible, bitchy woman is something with which to contend.

This deep, dark sexuality represented in the ancient sex rites of the Middle East and procured through magick of a womans intellect and body gave men the right to rule. Through these unions, if a child was born, it meant abundance for everyone. But since monotheism has separated the sacred from sexuality and claim rights to women as property, the image of the divine feminine is distorted, feared and rejected. Its happened for so long that it seems a hopeless fix.

Where theres a desire to succeed, the way will be presented; however, it would take a lot of effort on the part of everyone. The way to start is within the self. We must take each of these Goddess archetypes and turn them inward. We must question ourselves and relate ourselves to each of these and where our roles lie within the myths in any given situation. Are we Medusa embodying the patriarchal version of her form, denying the mysteries of the feminine for a lack in hope of anything else? Are we Lilith, immediately fleeing when we dont get our way or assuming we wont be accepted by others and leave? Are we Mary Magdalene? Speaking up for our intuitions and visions, only to get knocked down because of others jealousy and criticism? Or what about our own sense of greed and envy? What do we fear so badly that it prevents us from positively moving forward? What part of ourselves are we rejecting? Evaluations of this kind are pertinent to release the fear we clench in our guts. Coming to terms with our shadowy sides means understanding who the Dark Mother really is.

The Dark Mother represents our worst nightmares, fears, anxieties, worries and phobias. She is a reflection of our hidden desires, an ugly form that represents the other half of who we are. She is that part of ourselves who we dread, capable of committing just as much ill as we can good. True integration of this within ourselves, our psyches and our rationale will guide us to not being scared. Releasing trepidation means theres nothing to fear, not even death.
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Sabtu, 27 Mei 2017

Prescription for a Broken Heart

Being heartbroken is a pain that no one can understand until they have experienced it for themselves. You obviously have, therefore are aware of how fragile your heart is right now. Healing a broken heart will take time, but is not impossible, though it may feel that way at the time. It is never an easy process to go through, but with the right prescription, you will be on your way to recovery and happiness again.

The first thing you should keep in mind is that it is okay to feel sad and grieve about what happened and that you are not stupid for doing so. It is perfectly normal to feel sad and cry after a break up. You have invested most of your time and all of your love and interest into your ex-partner; therefore will go through a sad and painful withdrawal. It is notable that you not grieve all on your own. Sure, there will be times when you will just want to be alone and undisturbed. However, it is important that you talk to your friends and family about it. Talking about it is not only healthy, but will mend your heart quicker because you will release the thoughts and facts that are hurting you so much. Seeking professional advice will be a great help to you as well because your mind will open up and see new perspectives and understandings of what happened. It will help you gather your strength, pick yourself up, and find the happiness you deserve to have.

Accepting the fact that you and your ex-partner are no longer together is a necessity if you are going to start mending your broken heart. If you catch yourself unable to function due to constantly thinking about your ex or repeatedly calling or visiting him or her for another chance, then chances are you are suffering from love addiction and should seek counseling. Discontinuing a serious relationship is emotionally challenging and can drive you to do things that are unhealthy for your self-being. To avoid entering such hazardous areas, keep yourself occupied. Go out with your friends and family to help get your mind off the break up. It is best to spend as less time alone as you can in the first few weeks of your breakup so that your emotions can slowly and patiently form back into their normal pattern.

Fight the thoughts that tell you that you are a failure and are to blame for the end of your relationship. When a relationship ends it means that the two of you were no longer compatible and that always takes two, not just you. Instead of beating yourself up over what has transpired, examine your ex-relationship by listing the things you enjoyed most about it and then the things that disappointed you and what you believe really caused the breakup. Look at the relationship as a learning experience and an opportunity to improve your relationship skills, and a way to realize what you truly need and want from a romantic relationship.

Learning to forgive yourself and your ex-lover will speed up the healing process for the reason that you will feel more peaceful and calm about it. Hating your ex will only build up tension and stress in your life, causing your emotions to slow down from getting back to order. One way to avoid bitterness against your ex-partner is to look at the breakup as a favor. Appreciate their honesty of no longer wanting to pursue the relationship, instead of giving you high hopes for a possible future together. It is always an advantage to exit a relationship that had no chances to survive than to be misled.

Conquer your fear of being alone. You need to help yourself understand that it is not abnormal to be on your own and that your values come from who are rather than whom you are with. Teach yourself that there is more to life than romantic relationships by spending quality time with your friends and family. Learn more about whom the other people in your life are and introduce more of yourself to them as well. Go out and do things together and treat yourself to something you enjoy, whether it is your favorite restaurant, shopping, going to the movies, or anything else. Learning to you be your own best friend will not only improve your relationship with yourself, but with others as well. As you begin to discover the other beauties of life and yourself, you will become more stable and stronger to face anything that crosses your path, such as a new relationship in the future.

Before you consider entering another relationship, take a step back and ask yourself why you want to do so. Make sure that you are not entering a new relationship on a rebound. This will only leave you with unfinished emotions and you will never have closure from your former relationship. Never begin a new relationship because you are afraid of being on your own, or feel the need to just be in a relationship. Form a relationship with someone new because you feel strong and secure on your very own and feel that you are ready to attempt a new romance. Take it one step at a time and keep in mind of what your needs and desires are from a person and observe closely to see if they show signs of the qualities you are looking for. As soon as you notice that he or she is not, then get out of it as soon as possible. Learning from your previous relationships will come in very handy because you will be able to prevent similar situations in the future, leading you to meeting the people who fit your description of a perfect partner.

Lastly, remind yourself that love is a wonderful feeling and experience and should not be generalized based on your past experiences. Do not use facts about your ex as a way to judge new people in your life. Leave your past behind you and focus on moving ahead. Get to know new people for who they are, not by comparing them to others, what they are not, or what they could be. Once you have observed their personality, values and everything else, trust yourself to make the right decisions without constantly doubting yourself. If you wish to try having a new relationship, then do so. If you do not however, then do not feel guilty to kindly walk away from the situation. You would be doing both you and the other a person a huge favor and saving time and emotions from being hurt. You have nothing to fear or worry about. After all, there will always be one person who will always love you, appreciate who you are and be there for you. . . and that is YOU.
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